I’ve dated both men and women, but I don’t stay with liars. Short hair and masculine clothes? No problem. Lie about anything major? Bye, bitch. You ruined the relationship before it even started.
This really pisses me off and was the source of many arguments over 10 years ago. I never felt comfortable with straight women (I’m assuming they were all straight, since most women are) flirting with me when I was pretending to be a man.
If I didn’t tell them right away, as soon as I caught on, that they were flirting (I can be a little dumb that way), I would tell them the next day, or the next time I saw them.
I don’t ever recall any very negative reactions. In fact, I ended making friendships with some of them.
It’s not in any way, ethical to lie to a woman about who you are. Starting relationships with a lie will always end badly. The narcissism is insufferable in this bunch.
It’s the same kind of criticism I had so long ago, about Hilary Swank’s character in “Boys Don’t Cry”.
She sexually assaulted the woman she slept with, when she went ahead and had sex with her, without informing her of her true sex. It was my opinion when the movie first came out, and it remains so, to this day. It’s sexual assault. Period.
So if I were the potential partner of the lesbian in disguise our relationship would be over because it was completely built on a lie. It’s a no. Lying about ones sex is a big deal. Why not look for love on a trans friendly site? Oh, because she’s so deep in delusion that she thinks she is, in fact, male. And lying about a story to “test the waters” is yet another disrespectful and manipulative behavior. Good grief.
Thanks Karen. It is so good to see and hear you. I've been conditioned by the YT censors to not comment beyond a few words (to push the algorithm) so this platform could really be fun!
Interesting. Thanks for this. Honesty is totally paramount. Lying about your sex is the same as lying about your financial situation or your past. In my book any of these is a trigger to walk away.
Exactly. Unless she's with one of those women who 'understands', in which case she's lined up a willing abuse victim.
Well said.
I’ve dated both men and women, but I don’t stay with liars. Short hair and masculine clothes? No problem. Lie about anything major? Bye, bitch. You ruined the relationship before it even started.
This really pisses me off and was the source of many arguments over 10 years ago. I never felt comfortable with straight women (I’m assuming they were all straight, since most women are) flirting with me when I was pretending to be a man.
If I didn’t tell them right away, as soon as I caught on, that they were flirting (I can be a little dumb that way), I would tell them the next day, or the next time I saw them.
I don’t ever recall any very negative reactions. In fact, I ended making friendships with some of them.
It’s not in any way, ethical to lie to a woman about who you are. Starting relationships with a lie will always end badly. The narcissism is insufferable in this bunch.
It’s the same kind of criticism I had so long ago, about Hilary Swank’s character in “Boys Don’t Cry”.
She sexually assaulted the woman she slept with, when she went ahead and had sex with her, without informing her of her true sex. It was my opinion when the movie first came out, and it remains so, to this day. It’s sexual assault. Period.
So if I were the potential partner of the lesbian in disguise our relationship would be over because it was completely built on a lie. It’s a no. Lying about ones sex is a big deal. Why not look for love on a trans friendly site? Oh, because she’s so deep in delusion that she thinks she is, in fact, male. And lying about a story to “test the waters” is yet another disrespectful and manipulative behavior. Good grief.
No one wants a friendship with a manipulative, sneaky, confused, Gaslighter let alone have an intimate relationship with them.
Hope the 'victim' ruuuuuuns as fast as she can out of there before any real harm is done.
Nasty!
No one wants to date them and they never want to date each other! Funny that eh?
Glad you are keeping on, keeping on. We will win this fight!
A relationship that starts with lies, tests, and deception is not a relationship that any sane person would 'consent' to, regardless of orientation.
Thanks Karen. It is so good to see and hear you. I've been conditioned by the YT censors to not comment beyond a few words (to push the algorithm) so this platform could really be fun!
Interesting. Thanks for this. Honesty is totally paramount. Lying about your sex is the same as lying about your financial situation or your past. In my book any of these is a trigger to walk away.