PUBERTY BLOCKERS AND PARENTS
Yesterday, I read a Daily Mail article, ‘When Will Britian Wake Up To the Danger Of Giving Puberty Blockers to Children?’ (https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-10768707/When-Britain-wake-danger-giving-puberty-blockers-children.html) discussing the spinal fractures and constant pain incurred by gender confused girl caused by puberty blockers. Her mother said, “thought if this was his wish, I should agree with it. Everyone said Leo was brave to come out [as transgender] and I should be proud of him.”
Clearly, this mother bought the hype about puberty blockers being safe. This confounds me. How any adult can believe that shutting down the years-long process of puberty, working against the dictates of the body, can be done without incurring serious damage. Imagine what happens if the process of digestion goes awry or if circulation is obstructed. We all know that disturbing these processes will result in severe discomfort, if not death. Why do people believe that interrupting the process of puberty which involves every system of the body, can be done harmlessly?
It’s possible that this particular mother is exceptionally gullible, but there are larger societal forces at work. Femaleness itself seen as a disruptive element that must be regulated. What better way to govern femaleness than by limiting its full, physical expression in the bodies young girls? Women are supposed to cover our bodies in certain ways so as not to attract the wrong kind of male attention. What better way to make sure girls never don ‘slut wear’ than to amputate the body parts highlighted thereby? We’re taught to be deferential, to please men in word and deed, in order to not incite male violence. Puberty blockers stunt emotional maturation and brain development, making the recipient easier to gaslight and control thus less likely to raise any kind of fuss. Our natural uniquely female physical processes, menstruation, pregnancy and menopause are viewed as major disturbances apart from the pain and discomfort they cause individual women. Putting a girl on sterilizing drugs ensures that she will never undergo any of the ‘inconvenient’ physiological processes of womanhood.
We’re taught to accept expert opinions and to trust doctors. Additionally, women are encouraged to doubt our intuition, intelligence, our ability to process information, our understanding of our own experiences. We’re supposed to ‘be kind’ and to discount our feelings of anxiety or anger when someone invades our physical or psychic space. Welcome the 6-foot-plus man in a dress into the women’s restroom, locker room! Accept him as female! Lesbians, roll out the red carpet to the him as a potential sex partner! The ‘experts’ (doctors, lawyers, politicians) say that these men are female. Certainly, these (mostly male) people wouldn’t mislead us.
If we don’t, we should be ashamed. The time it takes to process the shame could be time better spent ridding ourselves of some pesky AGP. Instead, if we adhere to trans ideology, we’ll be too busy castigating ourselves to think clearly about guarding our boundaries.
We’re instructed on social and mainstream media to doubt our senses, to hear the male voice as a female voice, to see the male body as a female body. (Since when did Bruce Jenner become any kind of woman?) This can lead us to deny physical reality and to embrace fantasy - to induce delusional thinking in ourselves to benefit deeply dysfunctional men. Thus, we’re less able to think clearly having compromised our ability to recognize facts. Once we no longer know what we know we can’t argue against denials of reality. Our only choice to comply with those who dictate reality. We’re compelled to facilitate our own oppression by deranging ourselves. Some women resist, some do not.
This didn’t start with the gender fracas. Women have long been taught that abuse from men is not abuse. The slap or punch from the husband is ‘domestic correction’, a husband’s right, or something the wife ‘made’ him do. The belief goes that ‘good’ wives don’t need ‘correction’. Women are also blamed, frequently by other women, for staying in abusive relationships. The abused woman is now doubly wrong: first for being a bad wife who needs to be beaten, and second for being too ‘weak’ to protect herself.
What does this have to do with parents believing that puberty blockers are safe? Mothers are children’s primary caretakers and the parent usually quoted in media discussing the transing of kids. This is no accident. Due to internalized and societal misogyny, women are more likely to ‘buy’ trans as it’s being sold now by authority figures: Youtube influencers, the general practitioner around the corner, celebrities, mainstream media pundits, the President of the United States, billionaires who could buy Biden ten times over. Certainly, these powerful (male and make-believe male) figures with their degrees, titles, power, money, internet platforms, attachments to major medical facilities know what they’re talking about. They all agree with each other that blockers are safe and that trans is ‘valid’ so who are women to question? Who, indeed.
Mothers also bear the brunt, personally and societally, for anything that goes wrong with their children; even for decisions their adult children make independent of maternal input. This could lead to terrible anxiety about being wrong, which, combined with the pervasive belief that women can’t think properly, could shut down a mother’s critical thinking ability almost completely. In her effort to protect her child, she could chose the path presented to her by those in control - the trans path, that will almost surely lead her child in to sterility, debility and greater emotional instability. If she resists she’s derided in media for being an ignorant, hateful bigot; the child she seeks to protect could label her as abusive, the local or state government could be mobilized, forcing her to give up custody of her child. This would be a tremendous damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-don’t burden to carry.
This is why women must encourage each other to question all types of authority as well as societal dictates demanding deference. We must support each other in our attempts to free ourselves from the corrosive influence of misogyny as it exists within and outside of ourselves. Keeping a firm grasp on physical reality (chemically and/or surgically sterilized women do not become men, torturing women with these measures only gives us tortured women not some kind of ‘man’) is a good place to start. Encouraging other women to do so could be a good step two.
The enduring institution that truly has women’s best interest at heart has yet to appear on the planet. We’re on our own, so we must remain clear of mind and resolute of spirit. We must, indeed, stay strong ladies.
I work in the healthcare field (semi retired at the moment, former nurse) it continually boggles my mind how ignorant of biological processes the general public are.
It is, sadly, altogether possible that these moms honestly have no idea how critical puberty is. They likely view it as casually as they view hair growth or foot fungus.
Having said that, I know bugger all about cars but if my kid wanted to insert a flux intrusion capacitator into my car to make it go faster I’d, at the very least, google it first and ask my mechanic. Parents have a duty to at least TRY to learn the bare minimum about any medications that their child wants to put into their body and or diagnoses provided by their child’s bff….er drama teacher…I mean, doctor.
Excellent article